As I sit in my living room this morning listening to the obnoxiously loud, crotch-scratching, mouth-breathing, cro-magnons paving the driveway across the street, I’m struck by how different my coming out as a male submissive must have been from other men.
For one, I’ve always been surrounded by intelligent, open-minded, sensitive types. I’ve never been a big fan of sports and other competitive endeavors. Most of my friendships have always been with women. It’s where I felt I fit in. I was a ‘band fag’ in high school and college, a computer programmer in my working life. As I started dating my now-wife Suzanne SxySadist, I attended countless BDSM events around the country and made the acquaintance of so many other talented, beautiful kinksters.
Even my ‘coming out’ was made easy for me. My ex-wife outed me to my family – a move that backfired on her as it resulted in them all blocking her and telling me, “Hey, as long as you’re happy!”
So back to my current examples of “macho men” across the street. If that is the life you live in my fellow male submissive friend, I really feel for you! I can imagine how very difficult the idea of coming out around them must be and how very closeted, perverted, and alone you must feel. My heart goes out to you.
Please know however, you are not alone. You are not ‘sick’ or twisted. What you dream of is natural and very beautiful. There is a world filled with men and women who all share your dream. Don’t let the mouth-breathers get you down!
(If you have questions about the lifestyle or just want someone to bitch about life too, feel free to drop me a line at brettmacelveen@gmail.com)