by SnoFlak
OBEDIENCE:
Is it enough to just obey?
Or is the act of providing anticipatory service a deeper level of submission?
To obey is not something you need to think about, you just do it.
Excellence in service can ignite the D type head.
What if a task is difficult for you?
Asking the D-Type for assistance should be your last resort.
If you didn’t understand the task, then you must ask for clarification.
Once a task is given:
- Ask yourself, “Did I understand what is required?”
- If the answer is no, ask for clarification.
- If the answer is yes, obey, do the task.
- If the answer is yes, but you do not know how to achieve it / Be resourceful!
- First you seek out and exhaust all methods to obtain the information to achieve it example other s- types and or, experts in the field, the internet.
- Last resort: Ask D-Type how to perform the task
Anticipate a need or suggest?
Let’s take something simple: Not so good:
s-type:“You look thirsty, may I get you a drink?”
D-Type: “What, you are determining how I look?”
Better: s-type -“May this slave bring you anything, would you care for a beverage?”
Some POSSIBLE RESPONSES: D-Type
“No thank you”
”If I wanted anything, I would tell you to get it slave”
“Are you in need to serve?”
“Yes, thank you”
The best service comes with knowledge; My drink magically appears, done without pomp or presumption of recognition
Anticipation vs. Assumption
- Anticipation
- Living in the moment have the ability to improvise.
- Seeing needs as they come about
Assumption
Determining what the need will be down the line.
OATS:
How to become anticipatory and reactive.
- Observe!
- Ask Questions
- Take note, mental and written
Stay in the moment, improvise.
Reactive: Acting in response to a situation, without controlling!
Anticipating: Vigilant, watchful, eager.
Presumptuous: Overstepping, taking liberties
Daily Anticipatory acts
Have you completed all tasks required of you? If yes:
if the time allows, add in that “extra task”
Add something “high end”, like flowers, candles, candy, wine.
Serving the D- types Who is self sustaining:
- How do you find ways to serve someone who likes to do everything for themselves? The best methods to begin a conversation after thinking about the household, dungeon play, make personal notes where you may be helpful, if allowed.
Conversation example:
“This submissive would like to be allowed the opportunity to be of more service to you, would it be acceptable to You?
clean up your toys after play?
keep a list of food/household products as they are being depleted?
run errands?
Compose a list of skill sets you have that would be of possible use
Ways to be more pleasing:
- Learn new skills in your spare time.
- Create something.
- Have things on hand that are used or needed.
- Serve gracefully
- The little things. Examples, scented candles, a favorite soap, clean or create something you normally would not do.
Excellence in Service:
JPEDS
Joy, Pride, Extra mile, Details, Smile
- there is Joy in service
- take Pride while you are serving use all your abilities
- Extra mile to make sure you have meet all needs, anticipate
- attention to Details, it is the small stuff
- serve with a Smile on your face and in your heart (serenity)
My plate disappears when my food is done.
There are fresh flowers in the kitchen, a candle with a lighter next to my bed stand.
My water cup never runs empty.
A lighter appears when I want a smoke.
This may seem silly a flower, chocolate, or just a doily under a tea or coffee cup.
Serving the new to you D type:
Ask questions
OBSERVE without seeming critical stalky, pompous or interruptive
Offer services use caution!
Remember your OATS